Tuesday, June 15, 2004

I so bored tat i opened even single document in my computer and read it, I came across this article that i'd received long ago, but nvr read since. Here it goes:

Very frequently in relationships, people unknowingly do things that sabotage their ability to find love. Below are five key questions to consider in your quest to find love. How are you sabotaging your success?

1. Are You Serially Dating?
There are many people out there who are constantly dating someone new. These are the people who believe in the "bigger, better deal." For them, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. What they find out later is that the water bill is higher, too! Serial daters are people who are open to dating someone until the big "C" is mentioned (that would be commitment), and then they miraculously find someone more attractive, more their type, more into the things that they like to do for fun. Now, if you are like this and at a time in your life where you want to date around for fun or even for self-exploration, this is a perfectly acceptable stage of dating to be in.

2. Do you take emotional risk?
When there are new emotional things to explore in a relationship, are you willing to be open and vulnerable with the person you are dating? Think about this for a moment; if your dating partner opens up and begins to share about an experience, do you choose to listen or do you share your experiences as well? If you choose to only listen, are you just being polite or are you choosing not to share? Being open and honest about your life can be scary because you risk your partner not respecting, or worse yet, judging you for your experiences. When the moments present themselves, are you choosing the safer option of letting your partner do all of the talking?

3. Doing something new or doing the same as before, which do you choose?
If you are a person who has a way of being or a routine, are you open to changing for a new person? This is not to ask, "Are you open to being a new person?" but rather to ask, "Are you willing to do something outside of your normal routine to have a new person in your life?". Sometimes the very reason we are alone is that we are unwilling to step outside of our comfort zone and try something new. This can be as simple as trying a new type of food, or seeing a new type of movie. Or it can be bigger things like learning to have more fun and take life less seriously. When the moments present themselves, are you open to trying something different?

4. How well do you listen to your partner?
When your partner begins talking, how well are you really listening? One of the biggest obstacles in relationships is our natural tendency to give what we hope to receive instead of listening to our partner and giving what he/she needs. Because it is a natural response to give what we are hoping to get, it takes practice to learn how to give what another person wants.

5. How do you want to continue, now that you are aware of your actions?
When we learn something about our personality that we either didn't know or don't like, we have the option of making a change or continuing as before. If you are doing things that unknowingly sabotage your relationships, what do you want to do differently now that you know this? Nothing bad can come of trying something new ... After all, they say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, hoping for different results!

Found it rather useful, isn't it?

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